Tulong Dunong Home Visit Output
Angelo Umengan
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Tulong Dunong Output
I. The Experience
Reuben and I were initially late for the arranged time of home visitations, which was nine o’clock in the morning. Both of us were confused because the Tulong Dunong Manual specifically recommended the time “noon onwards”, so as to not disturb any Sunday morning rituals the families might have had, like chores or going to mass. Nevertheless we arrived there a few minutes past eleven, and saw most of our classmates hanging out beside San Roque E.S. already done with their visitation. Reuben and I asked questions as to where our partners are. Our classmates said that they, Banjo and Jaime, got tired of waiting for us and went with the home visits. With that knowledge I suggested that we should ask some of the other TD kids loitering about for directions.
In no time at all we managed to map out Elline’s (the first TD kid I was supposed to visit) house, and so we decided to start from there. My other TD kid, Danielle, was there, and wanted to join us in visiting the others. I talked to Elline’s grandmother for a bit about Elline’s performance in school and their religious rituals. After that she and Elline jumped into their version of the Ondoy phenomenon. Reuben and I listened intently, and after a few moments were out of there, politely declining an offer to each lunch with them. Before we left, Elline told us the directions to the first TD kid Reuben was supposed to visit.
After visiting Reuben’s TD kid we decided to go back to Elline’s quaint complex, where she and Danielle were outside of. I asked her once more for directions, this time Angelu’s (my second TD kid visitee) house. She and Danielle came with us this time, and we came by a fairly large complex. Danielle however went around it and towards the back, where there was this ramshackle yet livable space. It was cozy, and the walls were smoothed with cement. It was a break actually, from the searing heat outside, since the cemented living room retained a cool temperature.
We met Angelu’s mother Merly then, who took a break from laundry duty to entertain us. I did the same thing with Angelu’s mother as I did with Elline’s grandmother. After telling her of Angelu’s performance in school, I opted for making them (Angelu, Elline, Danielle and Merly) laugh with jokes about Jaime’s visiting with four other people (namely Fritz, Kevin S., Justin S. and Acha) instead of asking the personal question of how Angelu’s father passed away.
After that did we set off towards Reuben’s second TD kid, Claudine, who lived behind the Purefoods factory nearby. Her mother was surprisingly beautiful (I envied her skin) and young, and he had a lot to tell about Ondoy. We enjoyed that visit particularly because her story was in-depth and personal, and yet she managed to narrate it to us half-jokingly and lightly. We had fun during the visits, and not once did I or Reuben complain. We even passed Rhiczel’s house and said hi, and also Sam and Kenneth while we were on the tricycle.
II. Reflection
I did not expect myself to be okay about it all. I mean, I knew that my standards in life are not very high, and that I can lower myself down simply because I’ve been there, but still I was surprised by my being cool with the conditions of the visitations. The smells and sounds I didn’t mind, nor the stark contrast between the people in that rural community and the people I pass in Eastwood or Shang. Reuben and I had to be careful with our words, our actions and our behavior in general, for the Philippine people in general had a very linear opinion of homosexuals. Not only that, but they were also uncomfortable with us, because of their knowledge that we were “economically inclined”. Nevertheless, being homosexual made it much, much easier to talk to the elders and the kids. The experience reminded me on humbling myself and being modest towards anything. It also motivated me to work harder for my future, and made me hope that someday maybe, I could help people in these situations.
III. Prayer
Almighty Father,
We humbly thank you for giving us the opportunity to rid ourselves of any indulgences and material time to experience what it was like in Marikina, particularly around San Roque Elementary School. Please guide them and nurture them so that they can continue on in life with bounty and happiness. Please help them with their troubles and assist them during trying times. I ask that you teach us the value of serenity, temperance, and justice, so that we can someday make a difference and help others in need like you always have, Amen.
